Is This All In My Head?

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Truthfully, I do struggle to find happiness sometimes.  I often have 'down days' where I suffer massively and panic about absolutely everything.  I've been battling with anxiety and depression for a few years and often speak about the importance of talking about mental health but until now I've been extremely ashamed about being open about my struggles because, in truth, I know other people have it much worse than I do.

I've lived with chronic, debilitating pain for 13 years and until around a year ago I never really understood what was going on.  I was often told by doctors and even those who are close to me that this pain was all in my head and I simply needed to get on with it.  I even started to believe that there was absolutely nothing wrong and they were right, this was all in my head.

I'm not ready to talk about my personal battle with anxiety and depression because right now it's too difficult but I'm hoping that it opens the door for other people to know that having anxiety and depression is okay and nothing to be ashamed of and there are people out there to help you!

I haven't found the answer to helping my anxiety and I'm not sure I ever will, it is going to take years of undoing where I think I am not good enough or I think no one believes in me but I'm slowly getting there.  

I have been using yesmum® STUDENT affirmation cards almost everyday for around 2 years and cannot recommend them enough.

 I pick one of these cards every morning and focus upon that thing all day, they remind me I am doing a good enough job and help me focus my anxiety on a particular area.  They do a lot of different ranges from mothers, to children, to self love so please check out the link below if you're interested!
http://www.londonhypnobirthing.co.uk/product/yesmum-student-cards/
I think people are afraid to talk about endometriosis because quite simply a lot of the time nobody believes there is anything wrong with you because it takes around 8 years to diagnose.  However, I'm hoping that the more people that talk about it, the more people can get the support they need and stop feeling so isolated and crazy!  Since I launched my blog almost 2,000 people from all over the world have visited it and I've received some of the loveliest messages from loved ones and complete strangers so thank you so much for all supporting my in something that is so important to me!

Emily x

P.S. if anyone reading this is suffering from anxiety and depression I found these charities extremely supportive and there is a lot of information of where to get further support if you need it, please don't suffer alone!

https://youngminds.org.uk/about-us/

https://www.mind.org.uk

https://www.time-to-change.org.uk/about-us/about-our-campaign/time-to-talk

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